...it's hard to build those relationships this late in life, because everyone is busy and pressed for time, and it's hard to just stay up until 4am drinking and talking if you have to be up at 5:30 to go to work.
Agreed. That's where feeling young and being "older" clash, at least in my little world. I can't remember the last time I stayed up that late drinking & talking. By the time the weekend rolls around my sleep schedule is such that staying up late these nights becomes harder and harder to do.
But I guess everyone's life is filled with memories of times when in retrospect, opportunity must have been sitting right outside the door waiting for you to invite him in, while you were sitting on the other side waiting for him to knock, you know?
Yeah, and its a little easier seeing that in hindsight. Meanwhile it might be happening right now, were we able to see things differently. Turning around and opening the door is, to me, the most rewarding and scary thing I've ever done. Isn't that what makes life worth living, those seemingly rare moments when you take destiny into your own hands?
All in all, it's a good life I have here. I have the things that are MOST important to me, I just don't have a fantastic outlet for my ego, which is very probably a good thing for everyone else. I'm not sure that I could have both when it's all said and done.
::smiles:: Just the same, many in bands aren't that incredibly talented to begin with. Personally, feel I've almost cheated life by sneaking on stage and playing shows now and then. Especially 15 years ago when I didn't know how to play at all (and still found myself in a band, on stage, in front of a crowd of people). I'll never make it in music because I don't aspire to. Now days music is something I do for me. Mostly for ego, partly for therapy.
And I guess playing in music groups is something that being single has afforded me. Bands steal a lot of time from our lives and from those who mean much to us. I used to be so envious of John & Exene, but then even the best possible situations rarely last.
hehe, I'm not really a cynic when it comes to dating. Having tried personals (and dated someone from an ad many years ago..ugh), played in bands and so on.. Chances aren't so good that I'll meet my ideal date this late in my life. Even if I did I wonder whether being single for so long would negatively impact my ability to carry on a long term meaningful relationship. I'd like to think not, but...
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Date: 2005-12-31 05:14 pm (UTC)From:Agreed. That's where feeling young and being "older" clash, at least in my little world. I can't remember the last time I stayed up that late drinking & talking. By the time the weekend rolls around my sleep schedule is such that staying up late these nights becomes harder and harder to do.
But I guess everyone's life is filled with memories of times when in retrospect, opportunity must have been sitting right outside the door waiting for you to invite him in, while you were sitting on the other side waiting for him to knock, you know?
Yeah, and its a little easier seeing that in hindsight. Meanwhile it might be happening right now, were we able to see things differently. Turning around and opening the door is, to me, the most rewarding and scary thing I've ever done. Isn't that what makes life worth living, those seemingly rare moments when you take destiny into your own hands?
All in all, it's a good life I have here. I have the things that are MOST important to me, I just don't have a fantastic outlet for my ego, which is very probably a good thing for everyone else. I'm not sure that I could have both when it's all said and done.
::smiles::
Just the same, many in bands aren't that incredibly talented to begin with. Personally, feel I've almost cheated life by sneaking on stage and playing shows now and then. Especially 15 years ago when I didn't know how to play at all (and still found myself in a band, on stage, in front of a crowd of people). I'll never make it in music because I don't aspire to. Now days music is something I do for me. Mostly for ego, partly for therapy.
And I guess playing in music groups is something that being single has afforded me. Bands steal a lot of time from our lives and from those who mean much to us. I used to be so envious of John & Exene, but then even the best possible situations rarely last.
hehe, I'm not really a cynic when it comes to dating. Having tried personals (and dated someone from an ad many years ago..ugh), played in bands and so on.. Chances aren't so good that I'll meet my ideal date this late in my life. Even if I did I wonder whether being single for so long would negatively impact my ability to carry on a long term meaningful relationship. I'd like to think not, but...