"I've been worrying about growing old and who will take care of me? I don't have kids and don't have a family to speak of."
Describes me to a tee. Except that I'm *already* old and I'm just starting to transition and I'll spend almost every cent I have saved, up to now, on my transition and re-establishment in the world.
And I, too, want exactly what you described:
"Maybe I'd get lucky and meet a true gentlemen who wouldn't mind dealing with my shit as we grew old together on a farm in the country."
The difference -- apart from the fact that I *like* men ;-) -- is that I *know* what I want, and need. And keeping my eye on that goal is what keeps me from straying, too often or too far, from my chosen path.
What you are doing in your life now is not working for you and you realize, I think, that it's not a viable long-term solution, in any case. Problem is, you don't know where to go from here.
You are mentally *trying on* new ideas, like being with a man, who can look after you, and adopting a quiet, peaceful lifestyle in the country. Keep trying things on and don't be afraid of unexpected feelings that may arise as a result. Explore *all* the options.
Honey, if you can just decide, or discover what it is you *really* want your life to be, and focus all your energy and attention on that goal, you'll find that everything else in your universe will fall right into place and make sense...
It ain't easy -- took me 40 years! -- but I've identified *my* goal and I'm on *my* path, now.
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Date: 2006-09-13 11:59 am (UTC)From:"I've been worrying about growing old and who will take care of me? I don't have kids and don't have a family to speak of."
Describes me to a tee. Except that I'm *already* old and I'm just starting to transition and I'll spend almost every cent I have saved, up to now, on my transition and re-establishment in the world.
And I, too, want exactly what you described:
"Maybe I'd get lucky and meet a true gentlemen who wouldn't mind dealing with my shit as we grew old together on a farm in the country."
The difference -- apart from the fact that I *like* men ;-) -- is that I *know* what I want, and need. And keeping my eye on that goal is what keeps me from straying, too often or too far, from my chosen path.
What you are doing in your life now is not working for you and you realize, I think, that it's not a viable long-term solution, in any case. Problem is, you don't know where to go from here.
You are mentally *trying on* new ideas, like being with a man, who can look after you, and adopting a quiet, peaceful lifestyle in the country. Keep trying things on and don't be afraid of unexpected feelings that may arise as a result. Explore *all* the options.
Honey, if you can just decide, or discover what it is you *really* want your life to be, and focus all your energy and attention on that goal, you'll find that everything else in your universe will fall right into place and make sense...
It ain't easy -- took me 40 years! -- but I've identified *my* goal and I'm on *my* path, now.
Good luck! Hugs!